After reading “The End of Kindness: Weev and the Cult of the Angry Young Man” today, I posted the following statement on Twitter:
I know that good men exist. I am friends with a number of them. Yet there are times when I feel so discouraged, like they're outnumbered.
— Cecily Walker (@skeskali) September 12, 2013
My comment was retweeted, and after that, someone I don’t know asked me to define what a good man was, as he “was neither good nor bad, (but) confused and complicated like every single decent human.”
I thought that was a fair question, and I came up with this:
(A good man is) Interested (in) supporting and advocating for fairness and equality of all people. Willing to critique & correct societal imperfections. An ally in every sense of the word. Not a knight in shining armor. Not perfection personified. But human. And capable of seeing and advocating for the humanity in all of us.”
For the most part, I’m satisfied with this answer, but I wonder if I’m leaving anything out. What makes a man a good man?
(I’m focusing on men specifically for a number of reasons, but primarily because the above article references the online abuse of women that is perpetrated by men)